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[" T H E V O I C E O F T H E E A S T E R N T O W N S H I P S S I N C E 18 9 7 T H E Games playing an important role during isolation Page 5 Sports retailers experience a fat bike shortage Page 3 $1.00 + taxes PM#0040007682 Wednesday, December 16, 2020 Secret Santa elves hard at work By Matthew McCully Quebecers have the next nine days to shop and hope they don\u2019t drop before the province implements lockdown measures, closing all nonessential stores and businesses from Dec.25 until Jan.11.Leading up to the lockdown, all business where employees can work from home are obligated to do so as of Dec.17, Premier Francois Legault explained at a press conference yesterday.Elementary schools will spend an extra week at home doing distance education and returning to in-person classes at the same time as high school students on Jan.11.Daycares will remain open, Legault said, but any parents who can keep their children home should do so, leaving daycare services available primarily to essential workers.To level the playing ?eld for small businesses, big box stores like Walmart and Costco will not be permitted to sell non-essential items during the lockdown period, Legault explained.Any zones that were yellow will move to orange during the 18-day period, and zones that were orange will move to red.Legault framed the new measures as 30% OFF ALL RODANIA WATCHES Specialty: repair of watches and clocks with watchmaker on site.On-site jeweler with more than 40 years of experience in jewelry repair or manufacturing.We buy your old gold jewelry at a very good price.We have the most choice of everything you can fi nd in a jewelry store.Let\u2019s support our local merchants.2309, rue King Ouest, Sherbrooke, QC J1J 2G2 Tel: (819) 564-2335 \u2022 bijouteriefernandturcotte.com MATTHEW MCCULLY By Matthew McCully This is what a community that cares looks like.A room full of gifts, snowsuits, warm clothing, food vouchers and stocking stuffers for local children and families in need, collected through the Lennoxville and District Women\u2019s Centre\u2019s Secret Santa Campaign.The generosity of this community is incredible, executive director Terry Moore told The Record, standing among the items collected for this year\u2019s campaign.According to Moore, 75 donors and 54 sponsors supported Secret Santa this year, helping put a little something under the tree for 100 children in the area.Around $10,000 was raised, Moore said, explaining that in addition to gifts, the LDWC was also able to provide food cards for a number of families struggling this holiday season.Moore gave a special shout out to the Lennoxville Youth Centre.Last week the stockings were empty, Moore said, and by 4 p.m.Monday they were all full thanks to donations from the youth centre.Quebec to lockdown Christmas Day CONT\u2019D ON PAGE 3 PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW Page 2 Wednesday, December 16, 2020 newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com The Record Ben by Daniel Shelton The Record e-edition There for you 24-hours-a-day 7-days-a-week.Wherever you are.Access the full edition of the Sherbrooke Record as well as special editions and 30 days of archives.Renew or order a new 12-month print subscription and get a 12-month online subscription for an additional $5 or purchase the online edition only for $125.00 Record subscription rates (includes Quebec taxes) For print subscription rates, please call 819-569-9528 or email us at billing@sherbrookerecord.com 12 month web only: $125.00 1 month web only: $11.25 Web subscribers have access to the daily Record as well as archives and special editions.Subscribing is as easy as 1,2,3: 1.Visit the Record website: www.sherbrookerecord.com 2.Click e-edition.3.Complete the form and wait for an email activating your online subscription.Weather TODAY: MAINLY SUNNY HIGH -16 LOW -17 THURSDAY: 40 PER CENT CHANCE OF FLURRIES HIGH -12 LOW -22 FRIDAY: SUNNY HIGH 19 LOW -21 SATURDAY: MIX OF SUN AND CLOUD HIGH -8 LOW -8 SUNDAY: 40 PER CENT CHANCE OF FLURRIES HIGH 1 LOW -2 Hand in Hand For the last 30 years, Actions Interculturelles has developed hundreds of projects to promote the valuable contribution of cultural diversity to our country.By building new bridges between society, employers, immigrants and the various stakeholders in the world of education, culture, research and international affairs, Actions Interculturelles works on a daily basis towards creating an inclusive society that recognizes the important role of diversity.A recognition of the intrinsic value of each culture, a sense of solidarity and the mutual respect for our differences are only some of the convictions embedded in the spirit of each member of the organization\u2019s multicultural team.The organization\u2019s many initiatives bene?t immigrants of course, but also employers, job seekers, youth, seniors, women and the population in general.One of the organization\u2019s best- known projects, Dialogue+, helps young community leaders organize public actions and communications campaigns aimed at fostering dialogue and exchange amongst all members of our society.By building awareness and creating the conditions that favour a harmonious, inclusive society, the project aims to strengthen intercultural relations and prevent discrimination, ?ght prejudice and reduce the risk of violent radicalization.The Employability Service of Actions Interculturelles helps people from 15 to 30 years of age obtain meaningful professional experience that can allow them to start, or restart, their careers.By offering free skill development workshops, CV preparation and job search support, networking training, paid internships and mentoring, Actions Interculturelles works with young people to reduce the obstacles that make it hard for them to ?nd employment.The team also assists employers in obtaining ?nancial incentives and wage subsidies to help cover the cost of offering the participants job opportunities that will provide the experience they need and contribute to their professional development.The project is open to all businesses and non-pro?t organizations regardless of their sector of activity.Unique in Quebec, the Dare to Advance Challenge (Dé?Oser Avancer) encourages and empowers women of all backgrounds and ages to reach their full potential.Developed by and for women, this innovative project offers participants free skill-development and leadership workshops, networking activities, guidance from an experienced female mentor and a hands-on plunge into their ?eld of interest.A true bridge builder, the Dare to Advance Challenge promotes the integration of women of all origins into the community in order to grow together.The Diversity Café (Café Diversité) organizes activities between youth and seniors that promote intergenerational and intercultural connections.During these mostly virtual meetings, participants discuss issues they are facing and share traditions and stories.This is a great opportunity to demystify stereotypes and prejudices related to the clash of generations and cultural diversity.To learn more about these projects as well as the organization\u2019s many other activities dedicated to promoting cultural diversity, visit www.aide.org.You can also contact Catherine Labrecque Lacasse at catherine.labrecque.lacasse@aide.org and (819) 822-4180, ext.248 to lend your hand as a volunteer to help newcomers get off the to best possible start in their new community.Based in Sherbrooke, Actions Interculturelles is active in the Eastern Townships, across Canada and abroad.Building strength through our differences PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW The Record newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com Wednesday, December 16, 2020 Page 3 Local News There are several well-maintained trails in Bromont, Orford and Mont-Bellevue in Sherbrooke.People have options and they want to get outside for some fresh air.By Michael Boriero - Local Journalism Initiative Reporter Fat bike sales are soaring in Quebec, but demand is currently outpacing supply, as many retailers have already reached their stock limits.\u201cWell to be perfectly honest with you, sales have been very strong to the point where there are no more bikes available, so it\u2019s been a very good year but there is de?nitely a shortage of bikes,\u201d said Yves LeBolloch.According to LeBolloch, the owner of Giant Magog, when it comes to fat bikes, his store is bone dry.The store sold what is normally four months worth of stock in roughly one month, and pre-sales for next year\u2019s inventory are also through the roof.LeBolloch ordered more fat bikes this year, too, due to the pandemic.He assumed there would be a surge in people looking for outdoor activities.But even increasing their inventory for this winter wasn\u2019t enough, he explained, they still fell short of demands.\u201cMost manufacturers don\u2019t carry inventory of fat bikes,\u201d he said.\u201cOnce you\u2019ve booked them, that\u2019s it, you\u2019ve got them.If you booked 50, you get 50 and after that you call your friends and other dealerships and try to ?nd them.\u201d But while sales are skyrocketing this year for the unique bicycle, it\u2019s dif?cult to gauge what sales will be like next winter.The pandemic threw a curveball at the industry, LeBolloch said, now it\u2019s just a matter of evaluating the market, but also tempering expectations.\u201cI would say be realistic with regards to carrying the right amount of product,\u201d he said.\u201cI don\u2019t think anybody would believe that the trend, you know, I don\u2019t think it\u2019ll go up 100 per cent next year.\u201d LeBolloch added that while a lot of his sales have been Covid-related, there has also been an increase in fat bike sales over the past few years.Cities are developing more trails for cyclists and cross-country skiers.There are several well-maintained trails in Bromont, Orford and Mont- Bellevue in Sherbrooke.People have options and they want to get outside for some fresh air, he said, especially heading into a winter derailed by the pandemic.\u201cIt\u2019s not just you\u2019re buying one of these things to ride it around your neighbourhood, you\u2019re actually going out and riding the beautiful trails and enjoying the outdoors,\u201d said LeBolloch.This has also been Atmosphere Sherbrooke\u2019s best year for fat bike sales, ski and bike manager Mathieu Rousseau told The Record in a phone interview.But he noticed a slight increase last year.He believes it\u2019s because people are being more health- and eco-conscious.\u201cIt\u2019s different, you have a really good sense of being in good health,\u201d he said.\u201cI\u2019d say that my mental health is really better because I do a lot of activities and take in a lot of fresh air.\u201d Bicycles St-Onges owner Martin Bessette is worried about the current stock shortage in fat bikes.The Granby- based business is completely tapped out, according to Bessette.It takes between eight to 16 months to receive new inventory from Asia, he explained.Bessette said they didn\u2019t necessarily sell more fat bikes than normal.They just didn\u2019t anticipate what kind of effect the pandemic would have on sales.Now with a province-wide inventory storage, the bike shop owner is in the process of restocking, but for the 2022 season.\u201cThe production isn\u2019t back to 100 per cent yet, so a lot of bike orders are going to be cancelled.It\u2019s going to be a lot harder to get inventory in 2021 compared to 2020,\u201d said Bessette.Record Staff The CIUSSS de l\u2019Estrie-CHUS launched a recruitment campaign on Dec.15 to ?ght the existing lack of préposé aux béné- ?ciaires (PABs or orderlies).There are 100 bursaries available of $9,210 each to cover the cost of the accelerated training.According to a press release, the course \u201cSoutien aux soins d\u2019assistance en établissement de santé\u201d will be offered throughout the Townships.The Lennoxville training offers a bilingual option while the ones in Coaticook, Gran- by, Magog et Sherbrooke will be in French.Interviews for the program will begin Dec.21.Sports retailers experience a fat bike shortage Bursaries available to ?ll orderly shortage Record Staff The Fondation du CSSS de la MRC- de-Coaticook has issued an open invitation to Coaticook locals, encouraging them to show their holiday cheer by helping decorate a \u2018Christmas tree of wishes at the hospital in Coaticook.On Friday the tree was put up by the City of Coaticook and over the weekend La Fondation administrative staff and a dozen citizens hung ornaments and well-wishes in the tree overlooking the health centre.The gesture comes as a show of support to health care workers and local residents.\u201cWith the increase in cases, we are limited in our ability to act,\u201d explained Nancy Couture, president of La Fondation du CSSS de la MRC- de-Coaticook in a press release.\u201cWe wanted to offer our moral support.\u201d But support does not stop with Christmas ornaments.La Fondation also asked residents to record messages of support that will be played on the radio station CIGN FM for local health sector workers to hear.Anyone interested in participating can hang an ornament on the Christmas tree located at the corner of Court and Jeanne-Mance Streets in Coaticook.Locals can also call CIGN FM at 819-804-0967, ext.7 and record a message of encouragement for health sector employees for the holidays.More details are on the Fondation Coaticook Facebook page.more of a lockout than a lockdown, loosening restrictions on outdoor activities.Groups of up to eight players and a coach/monitor can gather for outdoor sports and ski schools.Parks will be open for cross-country skiers, snowshoers and outdoor enthusiasts to enjoy, but gatherings outside in peoples\u2019 yards are not permitted.Public Health Director Horacio Arruda explained the idea is for people to get outside and move, not stand around a ?re in the backyard and socialize.People who live alone are permitted to enter the bubble of another family, Legault said.During the press conference Legault said there are currently 7,411 health care employees off work, and 181 school classes were closed yesterday because of COVID-19, bringing the total number of classes closed across the province to 1,503, roughly 4.5 per cent of the students in Quebec.Even if numbers are high, Legault said for the second wave, compared to other places, Quebec is doing better based on a number of indicators.Quebec reported 1,741 new cases of COVID-19 yesterday, bringing the total number of people infected to 167,276, of which 142,894 people have now recovered.The data also reports 39 new deaths.The total in the province is now 7,571.The number of hospitalizations increased by 69 compared to the previous day, for a cumulative total of 959.Among those, the number of people in intensive care increased by 3, for a total of 125.Yesterday 298 doses of vaccine were administered.the Estrie region 87 new cases of COVID-19 were reported, bringing the local total to Estrie 6,205.There were ?ve new deaths in the last day, bringing the total to 105 in Estrie.A new outbreak of less than ?ve residents and employees was declared at SNT Bowen (site non traditionnel), a temporary residence set up for seniors awaiting a space in a CHSLD.Coaticook residents keeping spirits high among health workers GORDON LAMBIE Quebec to lockdown CONT\u2019D FROM PAGE 1 PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW Page 4 Wednesday, December 16, 2020 newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com The Record By Michelle Lepitre New in Townships Expressions: Ridley\u2019s War, by Jim Napier Ask any reader you know, and they will surely tell you that the winter months are a perfect time to curl up in a comfortable chair and spend an afternoon enjoying a good book.If you have reading plans in mind for the coming weeks, we have a great suggestion for you! One of our Townships Expressions authors, Jim Napier, has put out a new crime novel entitled \u201cRidley\u2019s War.\u201d Ridley\u2019s War revolves around Detective George Ridley, who accompanies his war-vet father Bert to the countryside for a military reunion marking D-Day.Unexpectedly, he becomes entwined in a murder investigation and a mystery that dates back sixty years.George\u2019s colleague from the Metropolitan Police, Colin McDermott, arrives to help him out and their investigation leads back to events in Italy during the war.They soon uncover two crimes that were never solved.But how can they determine what happened so many years ago, and bring a killer to justice without any eyewitnesses\u2026?You will have to pick up a copy to ?nd out! Copies of \u201cRidley\u2019s War\u201d are available through Townships Expressions at a cost of $25 each.You can order your copy on our website, in the Townships Expressions online shop, or by contacting Cathy Turner directly: ct@ townshippers.org.If you are looking for a unique gift for someone on your list, we also have a great variety of other books and music from local authors and artists\u2026 but hurry, there are only two more days to order your items before the holidays! Townshippers have talent This fall, we put out a call asking you to show us your talents and help us celebrate life in the Townships \u2013 and you certainly delivered! We received numerous entries from Townshippers far and wide for our Townshippers have talent creative challenge.We put together a selection committee to review all the entries (it was no easy task!) and the committee chose winners in six categories: \u2022 Youth - Olivia Gauthier and Bianca Beaulne (Sister Duet) \u2022 Photography - Sera?na Gagliardi \u2022 Song - \u201cMegantic is Burning\u201d by Brian Allen \u2022 Painting - \u201cOwl\u2019s Head Morning Mist\u201d by Anne Boswall \u2022 Written Word - by Kathleen Lynch \u2022 Nostalgia - Betty Telford (The Townshippers\u2019 Spring Fling 1987) The Townshippers have talent winners all received gift cards for local businesses to encourage them to shop local.We would like to thank everyone who participated in the Townshippers have talent creative challenge this year.We have truly enjoyed seeing what makes you proud to be Townshippers and we hope you will continue to share your creativity with us on Facebook or Instagram even though the challenge is over.If you do, please tag us (@ townshippers) and use the hashtag #proudtownshipper so that we can ?nd your work and share it! Happy holidays from the Townshippers\u2019 team After an eventful year, our team will be off for a couple of weeks, with our last day being Friday, December 18.We will be back at work on Monday, January 4, 2021 with lots of new ideas and information to share with you! We know that this year has been an unusual one, and that the upcoming holidays will look different than they have in previous years.Even so, we wish you a lovely, relaxing holiday season full of beautiful, heartwarming moments.We look forward to catching up with you again in the New Year! This monthly column keeps you in touch with Townshippers\u2019 Association\u2019s activities and news.Other ways to keep in touch: Online www.townshippers.org Facebook.com/Townshippers Twitter @Townshippers In person 3355 College St., Sherbrooke 3-584 Knowlton Rd., Lac-Brome By phone 819-566-5717 450-242-4421 Holiday Greetings from Townshippers\u2019 Association COURTESY OF JIM NAPIER Townships Expressions author Jim Napier has a new book out, \u201cRidley\u2019s War.\u201d When asked about it, Napier said \u201cI think [readers will] enjoy the book.I worked hard to make it realistic, to honour the Allied soldiers in the North African-Italian campaign.\u201d ONLY $8 ONLY $8 Looking for an original gift?In 2016, The Record published a commemorative book entitled \u201cCounty Fairs of the Eastern Townships\u201d.This book includes pictures taken over the past century from all the fairs in the region.Available at $8 each if picked up ($12 if mailed).We also have a limited number of Book 2 of \u201cDecades of Headlines\u201d compiled into one book.This book covers some of the most important headlines and stories from the front pages of the newspaper \u2013 wars, depression, floods, crime and punishment \u2013 from 1921 to 1930.Available at $8 each if picked up ($12 if mailed).For more information, call 819-569-9528 or email us at billing@ sherbrookerecord.com or drop by our offices at 6 Mallory, Sherbrooke (Lennoxville).In an effort to capture the stories of Townshippers in new and dynamic ways, The Record has enlisted the help of Kathryne Owen, who creates weekly videos interviewing locals and touring interesting places in the area.The videos are posted every Friday on our website and social media.This week on the Friday Files, we follow the trail of holiday spirit laid down by Destination Sherbrooke.Join us while we go searching for elves and visit some spectacular Christmas decor along the Scintillating Trail.Check out the Friday Files on our website at www.sherbrookerecord.com or our Facebook page.PHOTO: KATHRYNE OWEN Friday File: Destination Sherbrooke in the Holiday Spirit PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW The Record newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com Wednesday, December 16, 2020 Page 5 Record Staff The Quebec government is giving more than $1,314,000 to the centre de la petite enfance (CPE) La Pleine Lune for its new facility in Magog.The funding will go towards relocating 34 spaces and speeding up the process to create 35 subsidized spaces, including 10 spaces for infants.The ?nancial assistance comes from the Programme de ?nancement des infrastructures (PFI) of the Ministère de la Famille.Families Minister Mathieu Lacombe con?rmed the government\u2019s desire to implement measures to accelerate access to early childhood educational services back in February 2019.According to Lacombe, this is another concrete step to supporting the well-being of Quebec families.\u201cThrough projects such as this one, we are supporting the development of the early childhood education and care network in order to quickly make new spaces available, which is all the more important given the current situation,\u201d he said.Orford MNA Gilles Bélanger called the announcement \u201ca breath of fresh air for families\u201d in the Eastern Townships.He also thanked all of the CPE workers for their commitment and dedication to early childhood development and care.\u201cThis new facility will provide a more suitable environment for the children of CPE La Pleine Lune and will allow us to welcome others, as part of the Parent-Student project,\u201d said Bélanger.Record Staff The former Hells Angels bunker in Lennoxville caught ?re Sunday morning, but the building remains relatively unscathed other than some super?cial damage to the roof.The Sûreté du Québec has determined that the ?re\u2019s origin stems from an electrical issue.However, this remains an open hypothesis, said Aurélie Guindon, an SQ spokesperson, in an interview with The Record.The intervention of the Service de protection contre les ?res de Sherbrooke (SPICS) and the Sherbrooke Police Service (SPS) arrived at the scene after the ?re was reported at 8 a.m., but the investigation was transferred to the SQ major crimes division.The Quebec government owns the bunker, Guindon explained, which is why they handed the ?le to the provincial police.There is no timetable for the investigation, she continued, but the current hypothesis stands unless they obtain new information.PHOTO: BRUCE PORTER Provincial government announces funding for early child care centre in Magog Hells Angels bunker ?re linked to electric failure Games playing an important role during isolation By Gordon Lambie In mid-November the Entertainment Software Association of Canada (ESAC) published the results of a study suggesting that Canadians have increased their levels of videogame play this year in light of the pandemic.According to the study, carried out by the NPD market research group, 58 per cent of adult gamers and 80 per cent of teen gamers reported playing more video games during the pandemic, with two thirds to three quarters saying that it helped them to feel better and stay connected with family and friends.Although the ESAC study relates speci?cally video games, Christian Lemaire of Le Griffon gaming store in downtown Sherbrooke said that 2020 has also proven to be a banner year for the sales of board games and tabletop role-playing games like Dungeons and Dragons.\u201cIt\u2019s probably linked to a number of things, but people are looking for things to do,\u201d Lemaire said, pointing out that with less money being spent on vacations or events and people being encouraged to limit themselves to small-scale gatherings, there has been a marked increase in the public interest in board games.\u201cSince July it has been a constant increase,\u201d the store owner said, explaining that although the spring shutdown did see the store struggle, there has been a boom in business in the months since reopening.With rules on getting together face- to-face shifting from region to region and, at some points in the year, week to week, it gets hard to imagine that people have actually been getting together to play these games.Lemaire pointed out that, like with everything else, the gathering has mainly been online.\u201cThere are various platforms,\u201d he said.Etienne Domingue, who was actively involved in two occasional Dungeons and Dragons games prior to the spring lockdown, said that existing online tools for running and hosting games have seen a massive transformation this year because of the increase in demand.\u201c(The game) was already enjoying a bit of a heyday before the pandemic hit, but when the pandemic hit suddenly a lot of people found themselves with a lot more time,\u201d he said, speculating that, similar to what was highlighted in the ESAC study on videogames, the increase in activity came more from people who were already engaged in some way, rather than new players.In the case of his own experience, Domingue said he saw games that would happen maybe once a month in person beforehand start to take place online twice a week through services like Roll20, which allows players to interact with a virtual game board in real time.\u201cPlatforms to play online existed before but were less intuitive and accessible than they are now,\u201d he said.\u201cI know for a fact that Roll20 has never had this much traf?c,\u201d he added, explaining that the platform has made multiple revisions and expansions over the last few months.\u201cThese are upgrades that were long overdue, and I suspect it was because they were able to hire more staff.\u201d While the increasing popularity of gameplay prior to COVID can be tied to the rise of webseries and podcasts like Critical Role, which broadcasts the adventures and misadventures of a group of voice actors engaged in a campaign, Domingue said that he feels the rush to play more during the pandemic has been more about socialization than anything else.\u201cWe don\u2019t get in-person socialization in our work settings, so having that human connection in the context of gaming I think has been really good for my mental health,\u201d he re?ected.\u201cObviously the game isn\u2019t as fun as when you\u2019re with other people in the same room, but having this tool that everyone else is using certainly makes it easier to play more often.\u201d Domingue offered up the rise in online role playing platforms as being under the same umbrella as the crash course in digital communication that made Zoom and Microsoft Teams household brand names this year, and argued that even though everyone is itching to get back out and do things in person, the skills and infrastructure people have picked up this year are not about to go out the window.\u201cIt is one of very few silver linings of this global crisis,\u201d he said, noting that creating a more solid online community helped him prepare for and feel comfortable with a signi?cant move.\u201cMy social safety net actually feels bigger as a result,\u201d he shared, pointing out that when players can interact across great distances, they feel less distant from one another.Christian Lemaire of The boutique Le Griffon on Wellington Street North.GORDON LAMBIE PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW Page 6 Wednesday, December 16, 2020 newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com The Record EDITORIAL Paying attention on purpose (mindfulness) is key to descriptively identifying your thoughts, emotions, behavioural urges and the environment around you in non-judgmental ways, so that you can 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February 9, 1897, and acquired the Sherbrooke Examiner (est.1879) in 1905 and the Sherbrooke Gazette (est.1837) in 1908.The Record is published by Alta Newspaper Group Limited Partnership.PM#0040007682 Return undeliverable Canadian addresses to The Record, 6 Mallory Street, Sherbrooke, QC J1M 2E2 Member ABC, CARD, CNA, QCNA RECORD THE Beyond self-care By Leslie E.Roos Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, University of Manitoba Emily E.Cameron Associate Postdoctoral Fellow, Department of Psychology, University of Manitoba Natalie Mota Assistant Professor, Department of Clinical Health Psychology, University of Manitoba Declining mental health is a serious public health concern during the pandemic, with three- to ?ve-fold increases in psychological distress across Canada, the United Kingdom, Italy and around the world.In Canada, adverse mental health effects are even more elevated for parents.Our research shows how mothers\u2019 mental health has been affected, and a preprint manuscript reveals the possible the impact on fathers.Clinical teams are dramatically understaffed to meet population- level needs, and the most common therapeutic \u2018self-help\u2019 strategies are inadequate given the challenges of social isolation.As clinicians who research how to handle tough emotions, we have found that skills from Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) are uniquely positioned to manage unpleasant emotions during lockdown stress.It is vital to consider new strategies to work through inevitable pandemic challenges and build mental health resilience.DBT is an evidence-based therapy across depression, anxiety, substance use, eating disorder and anger- management symptoms.A \u201cdialectical mindset\u201d encourages people to validate the dif?cult circumstances that they ?nd themselves in (acceptance), while also trying new skills if they want a different outcome (change).At its core, DBT helps individuals learn about intense emotions and choose how to act in effective ways consistent with their long-term values.Different types of DBT skills can be used in different situations.Some skills are aimed at preventing dif?cult emotions from becoming overwhelming or at changing emotions in the moment, while others can be used when experiencing an intense emotion, to get through the moment without making the situation worse.Paying attention on purpose (mindfulness) is key to descriptively identifying your thoughts, emotions, behavioural urges and the environment around you in non-judgmental ways, so that you can choose what to do next.For example, it would be helpful to notice rising feelings of frustration when you realize that your partner did not do their dishes, instead of elevating to angry outrage because your pain-in- the-ass partner never cleans up after themselves.Next, consider your interpersonal values to decide the relative importance of getting an objective met (such as getting your partner to do the dirty dishes), maintaining your relationship (for example, delivering a request in a gentle non-attacking manner) or emphasizing self-respect (such as assertively communicating that they need follow-through on agreements for mutual respect).Once you have mindfully de?ned the issue at hand, DBT posits that there are four options to dealing with any problem: Solve the problem \u2014 Get your partner to do the dishes Feel better about the problem \u2014 Don\u2019t stress, because they\u2019ll probably get done eventually Tolerate the problem \u2014 Accept that you feel frustrated, but say nothing and move on.Stay miserable (or make it worse!) \u2014 Don\u2019t change anything, yell at your partner for never cleaning up and continue feeling very grumpy.5 DBT strategies Here are ?ve key DBT strategies that validate dif?cult emotions invoked by the pandemic and make the case for changing automatic reactions that may be driven by strong emotions, such as self-medicating with substances, starting an argument or eating a pint of ice cream to feel better.These include: Catch your mind when it is stuck in negative loops, so that you can come back to the present moment with grounding techniques.For example, identifying ?ve objects you can see, or squeezing an ice cube and paying attention to the sensations it elicits, can redirect attention to the present moment and reduce focus on negative thoughts or intense emotions that you may be experiencing.Plan ahead for positive activities that you can fully participate in during COVID-19 restrictions.By scheduling pleasant events that demand your full attention and that are important to you (such playing with your children or having a virtual dance party with friends), you can build up positive emotions that soften the blow of more dif?cult feelings when they happen.When your emotion does not match the problem, counter ineffective emotion-driven urges (that is, when the emotion is too intense, not appropriate for the situation or may be harmful) through opposite actions.Try engaging in an activity that elicits an emotion that is opposite to the one you are feeling.For example, if you are really sad and want to hide under the covers instead of getting up to walk your dog or bake cookies for an friend, you could start by blasting Pharrell Williams\u2019 Happy, or watching a favourite comedy show.Although these activities probably won\u2019t make the problem go away, they can help turn down the volume of unpleasant emotions so that you are in a position to problem solve and move on with your day.Communicate your needs for space, time and support effectively while keeping important friend and family relationships intact.Try using the WIN strategy, which stands for \u201cWhen,\u201d \u201cI feel\u201d and \u201cI Need.\u201d In other words, describe the situation factually, express your feelings and opinions (avoid should-ing, and remember people can\u2019t read your mind), and assert by asking for what you need and saying \u201cno\u201d clearly.For example: \u201cWhen I take the lion\u2019s share of child care during the work week while also trying to work from home / I feel burnt out, tired and irritable / I need you to help with bedtimes during the work week so that I can have a bit of a break and be less irritable during our time together.\u201d And be willing to negotiate for common ground! Practise radical acceptance of the current circumstances to choose a path forward with less suffering and more joy.Acceptance does not mean you approve or agree, but instead it allows you to acknowledge your pain and decide to move on, instead of suffering more.Start by noticing when you are ?ghting reality and ?gure out exactly what needs to be accepted (without judgemental language).Practise radical acceptance by reminding yourself that reality cannot be changed and allow yourself to experience dif?cult emotions that arise.Only by accepting current challenges (such as sadness that we can\u2019t give our loved ones tight hugs), can we truly move onto problem solving (such as dropping off a favourite dessert and enjoying it together over a FaceTime catch-up).Be sure to practice acceptance radically, meaning all the way! Distress and challenging interpersonal situations are almost inevitable this holiday season.DBT-based strategies can help manage dif?cult emotions and remain resilient in these particularly challenging times.Try these 5 therapeutic tools to manage stress better during COVID-19 restrictions PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW The Record newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com Wednesday, December 16, 2020 Page 7 Local Sports Montreal Alouettes new general manager Danny Maciocia speaks to the media during a news conference, Monday, January 13, 2020 in Montreal.THE CANADIAN PRESS/RYAN REMIORZ Record Staff The Montreal Alouettes announced on Tuesday that the club has signed electrifying return specialist Mario Alford and defensive lineman David Ménard for the 2021 season.Alford (5\u20198\u201d, 177 lbs.) made quite the impression upon his arrival with the Alouettes in 2019, as he scored two touchdowns in his ?rst two outings.In his ?rst game with the Alouettes, he took a-85-yard punt to the end zone in a 21-17 win over the Calgary Stampeders.The following week, he took a 90-yard punt to the house.He continued to impress in the playoffs, as he scored a touchdown on a 99-yard kickoff return, the 3rd longest kickoff return touchdown in CFL playoff history.In three regular season games in 2019 he amassed 218 yards on nine punt returns, while adding 117 yards on six kickoff returns.In 2018, he suited up for the Toronto Argonauts.The 28-year- old was drafted by the Cincinnati Bengals in the 2015 NFL Draft with who he registered one catch for 15 yards.He also spent time with the New York Jets, Cleveland Browns and Chicago Bears.The Greenville, GA native previously played collegiate football for the West Virginia University Mountaineers.Ménard (6\u20191\u201d, 259 lbs.) registered 18 quarterback sacks and 55 defensive tackles in 94 career-games with the British Columbia Lions.The 30-year- old Chicoutimi native also intercepted three passes, while knocking down another three.The former Université de Montréal Carabin also forced three fumbles during his career.Drafted in the fourth round (32nd overall) in 2014, he made 12 defensive tackles and two sacks in ten games last season.\u201cWe are happy to continue signing the players that we were aiming to keep in place for the upcoming season,\u201d said Alouettes General Manager Danny Maciocia.\u201cMario is an electrifying player that our fans will have the chance to see in action next season, while David solidi?es our defensive front on top of giving us ratio ?exibility.We are con?dent that we will continue handing our fans good news in the upcoming days.\u201d The Alouettes also announced that the team has signed new deals with Canadian defensive back Ty Cranston, American defensive linemen Michael Onuoha and Austrian Robinson, as well as American quarterback Quinten Dormady.Cranston (6\u20193\u2019\u2019, 205 lbs.) was drafted in the seventh round (56th total) by the Alouettes in 2017.The 26-year-old played 21 career-games over two seasons in Montreal, registering nine defensive tackles and 16 special teams tackles.Onuoha (6\u20195\u2019\u2019, 255 lbs.) was a member the Baltimore Ravens\u2019 practice roster in 2019 following his collegiate career with the Texas A&M Commerce Lions where he amassed 137 tackles and 14 sacs in 38 games.Robinson (6\u20194\u2019\u2019, 300 lbs.) joined the Carolina Panthers in 2020 after suiting up for the University of Mississippi Rebels in the collegiate ranks, where he registered 81 tackles, ?ve sacks and one interception.Dormady (6\u20195\u2019\u2019, 219 lbs.) completed his collegiate career with the Central Michigan University Chippewas completing 190 of his 294 passes for 2,312 yards and 14 touchdowns in 2019.He had previously played for the University of Houston Cougars and University of Tennessee Volunteers.Alouettes sign Mario Alford and David Ménard PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW Page 8 Wednesday, December 16, 2020 newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com The Record Death BIRTH NOTICES, CARDS OF THANKS, IN MEMORIAMS, BRIEFLETS: Text only: 40¢ per word.Minimum charge $10.00 ($11.50 taxes included) Discounts: 2 insertions or more: 15% off With photo: additional $18.50.DEADLINE: 11 a.m., day before publication.BIRTHDAY, ANNIVERSARY & GET-WELL WISHES, ENGAGEMENT NOTICES: Text only: $16.00 (includes taxes) With photo: $26.00 ($29.90 taxes included) DEADLINE: 3 days before publication.WEDDING WRITE-UPS: $26.00 ($29.90 taxes included) WITH PHOTO: $36.00 ($41.40 taxes included) Please Note: All of the aforementioned (except death notices) must be submitted typewritten or neatly printed, and must include the signature and daytime telephone number of the contact person.Can be e-mailed to: classad@sherbrookerecord.com - They will not be taken by phone.DEADLINES FOR DEATH NOTICES: For Monday\u2019s paper, email production@sherbrookerecord.com or call 819-569-4856 between 1 p.m.and 5 p.m.Sunday.For Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday\u2019s edition, email production@sherbrookerecord.com, call 819-569-4856 or fax 819-569-1187 (please call to con?rm transmission) between 9 a.m.and 5 p.m.the day prior to the day of publication.The Record cannot guarantee publication if another Record number is called.Rates: Please call for costs.RATES and DEADLINES: ANNOUNCEMENTS & NOTICES WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 16, 2020 Today is the 351st day of 2020 and the 86th day of autumn.TODAY\u2019S HISTORY: In 1773, Tea Act protesters dumped hundreds of crates of tea into Boston harbor, an act that came to be known as the \u201cBoston Tea Party.\u201d In 1835, a huge ?re destroyed nearly 700 buildings in New York City.In 1944, German forces began a 90-minute artillery barrage against the Allied front, signaling the onset of the Battle of the Bulge.In 2000, President George W.Bush selected Colin Powell as the ?rst African American secretary of state.TODAY\u2019S BIRTHDAYS: Jane Austen (1775-1817), author; Noel Coward (1899-1973), playwright; Margaret Mead (1901-1978), anthropologist; Arthur C.Clarke (1917-2008), writer; Philip K.Dick (1928-1982), author; Lesley Stahl (1941- ), journalist; Steven Bochco (1943-2018), screenwriter/ producer; Shane Black (1961- ), actor/ screenwriter/director; William \u201cThe Refrigerator\u201d Perry (1962- ), football player; Benjamin Bratt (1963- ), actor; Krysten Ritter (1981- ), actress; Theo James (1984- ), actor.TODAY\u2019S FACT: Margaret Mead was named \u201cMother of the World\u201d by Time magazine in 1969.TODAY\u2019S SPORTS: In 1973, Buffalo Bills running back O.J.Simpson became the ?rst player in NFL history to rush for 2,000 yards in a season.TODAY\u2019S QUOTE: \u201cReality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn\u2019t go away.\u201d - Philip K.Dick, \u201cI Hope I Shall Arrive Soon\u201d TODAY\u2019S NUMBER: $2.8 billion - worldwide box-of?ce gross of James Cameron\u2019s \u201cAvatar,\u201d which began its wide international release on this day in 2009.It is second only to \u201cAvengers: Endgame\u201d on the list of highest- grossing ?lms of all time (not adjusted for in?ation).TODAY\u2019S MOON: Between new moon (Dec.14) and ?rst quarter moon (Dec.21).Preparing homemade cakes is an endeavor that families can enjoy together.Baking is a popular holiday tradition in many families, and few cake styles are as recognized as the Bundt cake.The Bundt® pan was created in 1950 by H.David Dahliquist, the founder of the Minneapolis-based Nordic Ware kitchen products manufacturer.The shape was inspired by a traditional European cake known as kugelhopf.The design creates a hole in the center of the cake, which enables a heavy, dense cake to be baked without risk of the center being undone.Many cakes lend themselves well to the Bundt form, and that includes this \u201cOrange Spice Cake With Berries\u201d from \u201cClassic Stars Desserts\u201d (Chronicle Books) by Emily Luchetti.Orange Spice Cake With Berries Serves 10 Cake Butter for the pan 3 tablespoons ?ne dried bread crumbs 3 cups all-purpose ?our 1/2 teaspoon ground white pepper 3/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon 3/4 teaspoon ground cardamom 3/4 teaspoon baking soda 3/4 teaspoon baking powder 3/4 teaspoon kosher salt 1 cup milk 2 tablespoons freshly squeezed lemon juice Grated zest of 2 oranges 3/4 teaspoon peeled and grated fresh ginger 8 ounces unsalted butter, at room temperature 11/2 cups granulated sugar 3 large eggs Glaze 1/2 cup granulated sugar 1/4 cup freshly squeezed orange juice 11/2 teaspoons freshly squeezed lemon juice 1 pint raspberries (about 2 cups) 1 pint blueberries (about 2 cups) Preheat the oven to 350 F.Butter a 10-inch Bundt pan and dust with the bread crumbs, tapping out the excess.Sift together the ?our, white pepper, cinnamon, cardamom, baking soda, and baking powder onto a piece of parchment paper or into a bowl.Add the salt and set aside.In a small bowl or measuring cup, stir together the milk, lemon juice, orange zest, and ginger and set aside.Combine the butter and sugar in the bowl of a stand mixer ?tted with the paddle attachment and beat on medium-high speed until light and ?uffy, about 3 minutes.Add the eggs one at a time, mixing well after each addition.Reduce the speed to low and add the dry ingredients in three additions, alternating with the milk mixture in two additions, beginning and ending with the dry ingredients and mixing well after each addition.Spread the batter into the prepared pan.Bake the cake until a skewer inserted into the center comes out clean, about 40 minutes.Let cool for 15 minutes.Invert a platter on top of the pan and then invert the plate and pan together.Lift off the pan.To make the glaze: In a small saucepan, combine the sugar, orange juice, and lemon juice over low heat, stirring to dissolve the sugar.Brush the glaze on the cake.It will seem like a lot of glaze, but the cake will absorb it.Let the cake cool to room temperature.Slice the cake and serve with raspberries, blueberries and cream, if desired.Note: Experiment with other berries for the holiday season, such as sugar- dusted cranberries.(Metro Creative) Datebook Bake up a classically shaped dessert for the holidays Shirley Aileen Mills Bethke TODD April 23, 1936 \u2013 December 15, 2020 Shirley passed away peacefully at the Argyll Pavilion in Sherbrooke, due to complications from Covid-19, on December 15, 2020.Beloved mother of Lesllie Potts and the late Susan Murton.Cherished grandmother of the late Sarah, Amanda (Oliver), Alyssa (Adam) and Ally, great-grandmother to Elise and Conor.Dear sister of Gordon, Audrey and Stella Todd.She will also be greatly missed by her good friends Margaret Wright and Bessie Mills.A service will be held at a later date.She will be missed.PRINTED AND DISTRIBUTED BY PRESSREADER PressReader.com +1 604 278 4604 ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY .ORIGINAL COPY COPYRIGHT AND PROTECTED BY APPLICABLE LAW The Record newsroom@sherbrookerecord.com Wednesday, December 16, 2020 Page 9 Your Birthday WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 16, 2020 Make health and well-being your priorities this year.It\u2019s time to let go of old habits and people who lead you astray.Look to the future with hope, enthusiasm and the desire to be and do your very best.Added discipline will encourage greater stability and security.SAGITTARIUS (Nov.23-Dec.21) - Be careful when dealing with joint ventures or shared expenses.Keeping things equal will help you avoid tension and get things done on time.Keep a reasonable schedule.CAPRICORN (Dec.22-Jan.19) - Keep busy and keep the peace.Channel your energy into something concrete.If you are smart and goal-oriented, success will come your way.You must work hard to be reasonable.AQUARIUS (Jan.20-Feb.19) - Keep an open mind and listen to what others say, but don\u2019t let anyone meddle in your affairs.Work hard to uphold your beliefs and help a cause that matters to you.PISCES (Feb.20-March 20) - Look at your objective and map out a realistic, affordable plan.Don\u2019t let a last-minute change lead to uncertainty.Consider what\u2019s best for you and head in that direction.ARIES (March 21-April 19) - What you want to do and what you are supposed to do will be in con?ict.Stop stressing out and start working hard.Get your responsibilities out of the way early.Romance is favored.TAURUS (April 20-May 20) - If you focus on success, you will be happy with the results.Invest more time, effort and money in learning, honing your skills and making your dreams come true.Embrace change.GEMINI (May 21-June 20) - Talk matters through to get good results.A partnership looks promising, but it will require honesty from the start.Fess up to anything that has the potential to become a problem.CANCER (June 21-July 22) - A ?nancial change will take you by surprise.Be wary of anyone asking personal questions or wanting access to sensitive information.A partnership will take an exciting turn.LEO (July 23-Aug.22) - You will thrive in settings that require physical endurance and competition.Be honest with yourself regarding what you can do, and plan your strategy to ?t your ability.Don\u2019t worry about others\u2019 actions.VIRGO (Aug.23-Sept.22) - Refuse to let personal problems drag you down.Your success will depend on how much you are willing to put in to reach your goal.Strive for perfection and embrace new possibilities.LIBRA (Sept.23-Oct.23) - Listen to your heart, ful?ll your dreams and let go of what is no longer working for you.Problems at home will leave you feeling torn between what you want and how to go about getting your way.SCORPIO (Oct.24-Nov.22) - Stop laboring over what\u2019s holding you back, put your ducks in a row and make a move.You know what\u2019s best for you and what you have to do to reach your objective.More initiative may be required.WEDNESDAY, DECEMBER 16, 2020 Are the robots allowed to peek?By Phillip Alder In a script for \u201cNorthern Exposure,\u201d Henry Bromel wrote, \u201cThey say dreams are the windows of the soul - take a peek, and you can see the inner workings, the nuts and bolts.\u201d Anyone who has played at Bridge Base Online with or against the robots has probably wondered if they are allowed to see their partner\u2019s hand when they are on defense.It had crossed my mind after being on the losing end of a couple of razzle-dazzle defenses.But not after this deal.What was the result in one no-trump after the West robot led the heart three?My one-no-trump opening bid showed a good 11 to 14 points.I am a big fan of the weak no-trump, believing its pluses vastly outweigh the minuses.Trick one went heart three, two, ?ve, six! If I could have peeked, I would have led the diamond jack! But after a low diamond to the nine, queen and king, the East robot returned the club three.West took that trick and strangely led the diamond 10.I won with my ace and played the heart 10.West, misled by partner\u2019s play at trick one, put up the king.East won with the ace and led back the diamond eight.I won with my jack, cashed the diamond seven, played a heart to dummy\u2019s nine and took the heart queen, club ace and club queen.Then, at trick 12, I played a spade to the king.Have you been keeping track?That was nine tricks! I asked partner why she had made such a cautious pass! What is the winning defense against one no-trump?To start, any lead but the heart king, seven or three! 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- though, I think some of the political messages could be considered controversial.Though there\u2019s no dispute that social media and cellphones are incredibly distracting.Cellphones have been called \u201cthe new cigarettes\u201d because they can be addictive and harmful.Dear Annie: I have to share a gift.When my nephew got married, his future mother-in-law sat her daughter down and had a talk with her about her future mother- in-law.Her mom told her to be \u201cnice and respectful\u201d to her future mother-in-law.Her mom told her this, because she has a daughter- in-law who does not treat her well.Unfortunately, I feel this story could be familiar for many mothers of sons.It is heartbreaking that so many families experience this.We never know when a loved one could be gone in a heartbeat.So, why are we acting this way?I guess what really needs to be said is this: Talk to each other.Tell each other what you like and don\u2019t like.Engage in a relationship.Life is work; let\u2019s make it productive and pleasant for as many as we can.Thank you for listening; I love your column for what you write, mainly because of your openness to other viewpoints.- Mother-in-Law Dear Mother-in-Law: Your letter highlights a very important rule; namely, the golden one.Treat others the way you would like to be treated.When we live like this, the world shines a little brighter.Dear Annie: I have been with my boyfriend for 16 years.Until this year, we were very happy.We shared a home together and talked all the time.We had a healthy sex life.Our relationship was great.But when the pandemic happened, his 22-year-old daughter moved in.Since then, my world was turned upside- down.She is rude to me and won\u2019t engage in conversation.It\u2019s like she pretends I\u2019m not even there when she walks by.She doesn\u2019t clean up after herself.When I told him I wanted her to show me some respect and speak to me, he told me I needed to show her some respect.Over the years, my partner has asked me to make some hard choices.At one time, my nephew had to move in with us for a few months.He insisted that my nephew pay rent even though we were living in the house I grew up in at the time.On another occasion, I let go of 30-year friendships because he didn\u2019t like my friends.Lastly, I gave up my home and moved into a house he bought without me seeing it.He has asked me to make some sacri?ces over the years, and I did because I love him.When I asked him to make one, he called me crazy and refused to do it.I ?nally moved out.I don\u2019t want to lose the love of my life, but I don\u2019t feel comfortable in that house anymore.He did say he was willing to go to couples therapy, and I have tried to set that up but it has been hard due to the pandemic.He acts like everything is ?ne.All I wanted was some respect.And to take back my role in my house.I\u2019m afraid that my relationship is over, and I need to accept that and move on.What do you think?- Left Behind Dear Left: While his daughter\u2019s presence may have brought issues to a boil between you and your partner, it sounds as though they\u2019ve been simmering for quite some time.I\u2019m troubled to hear that he made you end 30-year friendships because he didn\u2019t like your friends.That\u2019s not love, and it\u2019s not healthy.In fact, that type of controlling behavior is often part of a pattern of emotional abuse.I encourage you to learn more about the warning signs of abusive behavior by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline (800-799-7233) or visiting thehotline.org.If I\u2019ve misjudged the situation entirely and he\u2019s not abusive, then give couples therapy a try.There\u2019s no need to wait until after the pandemic is over, as there are virtual options available.You can ?nd a database at www.psychologytoday.com/therapists/online- counseling.\u201cAsk Me Anything: A Year of Advice From Dear Annie\u201d is out now! Annie Lane\u2019s debut book - featuring favorite columns on love, friendship, family and etiquette - is available as a paperback and e-book.Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information.Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.60th birthday wishes to Roxanne Grant Blinn Even though we cannot be together on your birthday.we can let EVERYONE know you are turning 60 today! Happy birthday Roxanne, 60 wow! I Love you from the bottom of my heart.Barry Happy Birthday grandma Roxanne, happy 60th.Madison Happy birthday grandma, I love you.Hope you have an amazing day.Amelia One day soon, we can share a bowl of popcorn and watch the Canadians.Connor Roses are Red, Violets are blue, hugs are warm and my love is for you.Ethan We love you Grandma, have a happy birthday 60 years young.Jaycob We wish you all the best, health and happiness.Happy 60th birthday and many more to come.BJ & Nathalie SURPRISE! 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